A while back, I noticed I had never listed aÂ relationship statusÂ for myself on Facebook.Â AfterÂ decades of marriage, I felt confident inÂ listing my statusÂ asÂ “married.” I first clicked “Edit Profile” and then “Family and Relationships,” and then edited my relationship status, remedying my previous oversight.
PossiblyÂ due to my ownÂ aged-person ineptitude, or possibly due to otherÂ people’s misunderstanding, I’ve encountered questions and concerns ever since.Â Suddenly, anniversary best wishesÂ were pouringÂ in, followed by inundations of congratulations.Â Facebook connects you to people you don’t see often and whom you don’t even know well. When on occasion I run into some of these, they remember to ask, commiserate, and/or congratulate.
“I don’t know what happened, Kathy,” such a person recentlyÂ told me, gravely placing her hand on my forearm. “But, whatever it was,Â I’m happy for you, and congratulations.”
Facebook may think I changed my status, and I may have mistakenly made it seem like I changed my status, but I didn’t really change my status. This is just to clarify, today, on my 37th wedding anniversary, my actual relationship status is unlikely to change until one of us dies or kills the other one.