Author Archives: Kathy

A Student Asks a Question

Last week, a student asked me a question I haven’t been able to stop thinking about. He’s in his thirties and seems like a responsible guy, but I don’t think he’s ever studied a foreign language before. He’s already several weeks … Continue reading

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Hendrix, cont.

We know that people with BPD often invest all their hopes and emotions in a single relationship; they latch on to someone, idealizing the new partner/savior and expecting unconditional love. They’re destined for disappointment, of course, because no partner is perfect. Unwittingly, however, they … Continue reading

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Nutty Name, Crazy Ideas

A long time ago, I watched an Oprah episode I never forgot. At the time, I thought the guest and his theories were wacky – so farfetched as not to be believed. I’ve always had trouble remembering the guest’s unusual … Continue reading

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Summer Goes and Autumn Leaves

Back to school this week, I was aware of the sharp tang in the air. This morning I left especially early and wore a blazer. In the evenings, I’ve finally succumbed to wearing jeans and even socks and shoes, instead … Continue reading

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Serendipitous Reading

I just finished Moonwalking with Einstein: The Art and Science of Remembering Everything by Joshua Foer. It’s a study of what scientists know about memory and what wise people through Western history have thought about it, along with the author’s involvement … Continue reading

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Defining Terms

Sometimes people ask me the meaning and origin of borderline. It describes a middle ground between neurosis and psychosis. Those Freudian terms are a little out of vogue. To review, a neurosis is a mental disturbance of lesser seriousness. Fear of … Continue reading

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A Measure Going Out

A few years after my dad died and very soon after my childhood dog Abbie died, I stood in a bookstore and picked up Pilgrim at Tinker Creek by Annie Dillard. I read the book’s epigraph from Heraclitus and burst … Continue reading

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Books for Kids, Not

My sister-in-law Penni forwarded me an email that tells you what was happening in the year you were born. One fact struck me: Par Lagervist won the Nobel Prize for Literature that year. (I’m not saying what year that was. … Continue reading

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What to Do

My July, especially the last week or so, has been taken up with senior dog care and vacillating over the decision as to what to do. People who say that your dog tells you when it’s time to end his … Continue reading

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Love the One You’re With

I’ve named this phenomenon Compassion for the Other Person, meaning compassion for someone other than the person sitting in front of you. This happens when you’re telling a friend about a hurt or a problem, and the friend explains what … Continue reading

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