Weekend Editions

My husband has a knack for naming film series. The Cleveland Cinematheque’s current schedule, for example, includes a series of nine movies by W.C. Fields cleverly dubbed “Fields Days.” Another series featuring a Swedish female director named Mai Zetterling is called “My, My, Mai.”

Because of his uncanny talent, I gave John the task of naming my Friday posts, intended to be about books and reading. He suggested “Fiction Fridays,” but I told him that I might want to write about non-fiction or poetry. After a few more false starts, he came up with “Weekend Editions,” which, though lacking alliteration, affords me a space to spill into Saturdays and Sundays. Opportunities to procrastinate are always welcome.

My husband expressed only one caveat. “Hopefully you won’t receive a cease and desist order from NPR,” he warned. Until I hear from the NPR lawyers, Weekend Editions will be closing out my blogging week, following Monday Meals and language and etymology on Word Wednesdays.

This week I’ve been thinking about a trend in popular culture featuring characters with Asperger’s syndrome or exhibiting traits of autism. Think Sheldon Cooper and Amy Farrah Fowler on TV’s “Big Bang Theory” and Claire Danes in the film “Temple Grandin.” If these portrayals can avoid becoming offensive and also help viewers learn about and accept differences, then that’s a good thing.

The Maid, a novel by Nita Prose, was recommended by someone I enjoy on YouTube. Knowing nothing else about it, I checked the book out of the library. On the first page, the narrator, Molly, a maid at a fancy hotel, says, “I’ve got simple, dark hair that I maintain in a sharp, neat bob. I part my hair in the middle—the exact middle. I comb it flat and straight. I like things simple and neat.” I certainly don’t begrudge people on the spectrum having a chance to see themselves on screen or in fiction, but I’ll admit to a sinking feeling as I read these lines.

It seems to me that characters with Asperger’s syndrome have become a little too prevalent, a little trite, a little commonplace. In this novel especially, Molly’s quirks become a heavy-handed novelistic device. You imagine a writer thinking, Unreliable narrators are interesting, right? What if our narrator had trouble reading other people’s intentions? What if she were deceived by nefarious people and framed with a crime? A genius could probably make this premise work. Here, though, Molly’s relentless misapprehensions seem exaggerated.

The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close—certainly autism and novels sometimes mix well. However, if right now you Google “Asperger’s fiction” or “characters with autism,” as many as thirty or forty titles pop up. Maybe you can think of examples yourself. At what point, I wonder, does a bona fide trend become merely trendy? Let me know what you think.

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Wednesday Word

I was thinking about how most of us rarely use actual cameras anymore. Our kids and grand kids will naturally think of cameras as a function of their cell phones. But the history of the word “camera” hearkens back to an earlier version of the device.

The Latin word “camera” means “chamber” (another derivative) or “room.” An early camera was a truncated form of “camera obscura,” or “dark room.” If you owned or have seen an old Brownie camera, you have seen that little dark chamber, holding the light-sensitive film safely inside the darkness.

Image credit to Jen Theodore on Unsplash
Image credit to Jen Theodore on Unsplash

Other English words derive from this root as well. Our legislature is called “bicameral,” because it has two houses, or rooms, the Senate and the House of Representatives. (Not because elected officials love to appear before the cameras.) A chamberlain, a royal officer who attends a king or high-ranking noble, is in literal terms a person who manages chambers, or rooms. A “camcorder” combines “camera” with “recorder.”

And how does “comrade” relate? Well, you’re chummy enough with a comrade that you’d be willing to share a room with him or her.

Our comrades are a far cry from the root word “camera.” And the skinny hand-held devices that can “hold” thousands of photos are a far cry from the old Brownie “chamber,” a handsome box that protected our pictures until we could drop off the film at the drug store.

P.S. Some of you will recognize this post as a continuation of Word of the Day on the Facebook “Latin at CSU” page. Latin, alas, is no more at CSU, so a weekly etymology will be appearing here on Wednesdays. Suggestions are welcome!

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Monday Meals

(I’m reviving the blog in anticipation of the publication of a new book, the date of which is uncertain. The plan for the blog is to devote different days of the week to different subjects. Monday’s “m” will remind me to write about meals in the broadest sense, that is, about food and cooking.)

Every January I resolve that I’m going to try new recipes in the new year, delving into my neglected cookbooks. “Every January” tells you how successful I’ve been.

Retiring from teaching seems like a new beginning, almost like a new year. Inspired again to explore those cookbooks, I recently pulled Food Editors’ Favorites: Treasured Recipes off the kitchen shelf. Published to benefit the Newspaper Food Editors and Writers Association, reprinted in 1983 on behalf of Mothers Against Drunk Driving, this book features favorite home-cooked dishes of food editors around the country.  One of them is a delicious bundt cake I have often made. For several years, I offered it for a friend for her birthday, after she expressed delight in it the first time. And a super critical older woman of my acquaintance, known for her cooking skills, asked me for the recipe after I brought it to a church event years ago. That woman’s request for my recipe was like winning a culinary Pulitzer Prize.

I’ve also stirred up for the occasional party this book’s curry dip, submitted by Peggy Dunn of the Milwaukee Journal. Because the cake and the curry have been successes, you’d think I’d try other recipes, but, alas, I’ve barely sampled them. Last week, I cracked open the book and put together the Southwest Salad (Jane Baker, the Phoenix Gazette). As is often the case, I didn’t have all the ingredients and wouldn’t have wanted to include hot pepper sauce and chopped chilies anyway; still, the result was satisfying. I’ll add the recipe below.

While I had the book open, I made the old favorite bundt cake as well. It’s simple and dependable. The only challenge it presents is the directive to beat for 10 minutes, an arm-fatiguing time if you don’t own a stand mixer. As a result, I usually cheat. Seven to eight minutes seems to work just fine.  

Bundt Cake

2 cups sugar 2 cups flour 1 cup softened butter 5 room temperature eggs

1 tablespoon flavoring (vanilla, lemon, or almond extract, or a mixture thereof)

Preheat oven to 325 degrees. Grease bundt pan generously, even nonstick ones. Combine all ingredients and beat until smooth, about 10 minutes. Pour into prepared pan. Bake about 1 hour or until cake is done, i.e., the temperature has reached 200 to 210 degrees.

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Lead Me, Guide Me Reviewed

Thanks to the Heights Observer and my friend Robin Koslen for this review.

http://www.heightsobserver.org/read/2020/07/30/ewing-describes-an-exemplary-life-in-new-book

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The Worry Room

Father Dan used to imagine that our minds have a separate compartment reserved for worrying. ( I wrote about this on 4/4/20 in “Patting the Puppy.”) Let’s say our son is hanging with disreputable friends, we’re waiting to hear back on a medical test, our dad is becoming increasingly forgetful, and we can’t remember the last time we saw our wallet. Plenty of guests for the worry room. We ping from one travail to the other, fretting away the hours of our life. But then, Father Dan would say, suppose we learn that the son’s good influence is helping his friends, our test comes back negative, our dad is merely distractible, and our wallet slipped under the seat of the car. Hurray! For a short time, we feel relieved and grateful, but soon enough other worries begin creeping in. What’s that sound my car engine is making? How will I ever afford to fix it? We forget to shut the worry door, and a whole new set of problems rushes into that (metaphorical) space in our brain.

The last few weeks I’ve been obsessing over a legal worry. I tried channeling Father Dan wisdom, tried meditating and prayer, tried talking to friends and experts. All the efforts helped, but even so I pretty much took up residence in the worry room, especially in the wee hours of the night.

Thankfully, the issue has been resolved, and I’m still in a relieved and grateful mode. But worries about Covid 19, the start of school, and a Cold War with China are banging away at the door. Somehow the simple concept of a room that wants to fill up, no matter what, helps me. It strengthens me to bolt the lock, at least for awhile.

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We Shall Overcome

I’ve just finished reading a great book by a great American writer many people have probably never heard of. Robert Caro has devoted his life to writing two massive works: The Power Broker: Robert Moses and the Fall of New York and the five-volume (at 83, he’s still working on volume five) biography called The Years of Lyndon Johnson. The book I just finished was a timeout from his massive LBJ project called Working, published last year. It reveals the behind-the-scenes strategies of an indefatigable researcher and meticulous craftsman.

You might imagine that if you’re not particularly interested in Robert Moses or LBJ, Caro’s books are not for you. Perhaps you’re right. But I’d make the argument that the subject of a book needn’t attract or deter you from a book. Friends have told me they’re not interested in certain books, both fiction and non-fiction, because they’re “about” tennis or a couple’s honeymoon or 1920’s Paris. I reply that the books may not actually be “about” those things. They may actually be about America or love or families. The apparent subject is a guise for talking about other deeper, more interesting things. Or, just as important, the value of the book may be the skill of the writer and his or her eloquent and beautiful prose. I have only a passing interest in baseball, for instance, but used to love Roger Angell’s baseball essays in the New Yorker. You needed no baseball expertise to appreciate their grace.

So, too, with Working. It’s about Robert Moses and Lyndon Johnson, to be sure, but sort of in the way that Moby-Dick is about a whale. The anecdotes about the two movers and shakers are gripping, just like Melville’s three-chapter account of chasing down the white whale at the end of his novel. But both writers have plenty of other things on their minds. Working is about American history, about single-minded dedication to one’s work (a la Ahab?), about political power, about race in America, about the tragedy of great men whose power outstrips their wisdom, about writing, about research, about poverty, about interviewing, about marriage, and so many other things. If you disregard a book based on its apparent subject, you may be missing out.

Working has remarkable relevance to today, in a way that Caro couldn’t quite have predicted as he compiled the book before 2019. He devotes a beautiful chapter near the end of the book, called “Two Songs,” to the contrast between LBJ’s monumental achievements at home—the Civil Rights Act of 1964, Medicare, Head Start, bringing electricity to Texas’s hill country—and the tragedy and crime of the war in Vietnam.

One of the two songs is “We Shall Overcome,” which Caro intends to explicate in his final LBJ volume. He approaches the subject with humility. “The writing will have to be pretty good to capture what that song meant,” he says, “but I’m going to try.” His words reminded me of singing that song with the congregation at St. Cecilia’s years ago during Martin Luther King, Jr., weekend. We’d leave our pews and circle around the perimeter of the church, holding hands, black people and white people, and sing verse after verse: “We shall overcome,” “We are not afraid,” “We’ll walk hand in hand.” Who knew when I picked up a book seemingly about the lives of Robert Moses and Lyndon Johnson, I’d be swept back to that time?

Anyway, in the “Two Songs” chapter, Caro describes how 1965 saw the violent attack on protestors, including Congressman John Lewis, in Selma, Alabama, at the Edmund Pettus Bridge. Soon after this egregious police violence, Lyndon Johnson rode from the White House to the Capitol to deliver a speech advocating for his voting rights bill and on the way could hear demonstrators singing “We Shall Overcome.” Johnson’s speech, Caro tells us, made Martin Luther King cry, a sight, his aides said, they had never seen before.

 Caro writes, “And of course the speech that Johnson gave is one of the greatest speeches, one of the greatest moments in American history. I watch it over and over. I’m thrilled every time. [Johnson] said, ‘Their cause must be our cause too. Because it is not just Negroes, but really it is all of us who must overcome the crippling legacy of bigotry and injustice. And we shall overcome.’”

Our enemies, Johnson said, are not our fellow man, not our neighbors, but “poverty, ignorance, disease.” Good writers can remind us of the history that’s always with us. It’s alive, good and bad, right in this moment.

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Launch Party

You’re invited to a virtual launch party for Lead Me, Guide Me: The Life and Example of Father Dan Begin tonight, Tuesday, June 23, at 7:00 pm.

Log on to the website of Macs Backs-Books on Coventry to find the Facebook Live event. Or go to Mac’s Backs Facebook page and click on the link there.

Bring your own wine.

The event is archived at Mac’s Backs website: https://www.facebook.com/macs.coventry/videos/191873012206744

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How to Buy a Book

This title is not as condescending as it might sound, because I find myself explaining to people every day how to acquire a copy of Lead Me, Guide Me: The Life and Example of Father Dan Begin. My answer to this simple question is complicated.

Obviously, every bookstore can’t carry every book as part of their inventory, even mega-stores like Barnes & Noble. Only one site nowadays has almost every book you could wish for: Amazon. If everyone always buys books from Amazon, with a click on their computer at 1:00 in the morning, even big box retail stores will eventually vanish. It’s easy, it’s convenient, and it’s often cheap. So why not make Amazon your own personal shopper for books, as well as other things?

You can read up on the depredations of Amazon on the Internet. They include fighting unions and mistreating workers and drivers, depending on fossil fuels, wasting packaging materials, and raking in taxpayer subsidies for new warehouses. Most relevant for my purposes, though, is the harm they do to local businesses. Small booksellers around the country are doing remarkably well, but that’s because of their scrappy persistence.

Bookstore owners have told me that customers frequently browse in their stores, handling actual books!, and writing down titles and information. Then they go home and search out bargains (or perceived bargains) on Amazon. After doing their research in a bricks and mortar store, they buy via the Internet. Thereby putting more cash in a multi-billion dollar corporation rather than keeping that nice little shop, where people say hello and help you find books, in business.

I do the exact opposite. Before the Christmas holidays or birthdays, I search on Amazon for books that might suit my little nephews and nieces or other relatives. Then I go to my local bookstore (in my case, Mac’s Backs-Books on Coventry) to see if they’re in stock. If they’re not, the friendly staff there orders the books for me, and I can usually pick them up in a couple of days. I can also save a trip by ordering with a phone call instead, or ordering on the bookstore’s website. They will even wrap the books for me.

What about the pandemic? you’re asking. What if I don’t want to go out to pick up my book? Small booksellers have adapted by mailing your books to your home or directly to recipients, if the books are a gift. They also have arranged for curbside pickup.  No excuse! You can also, always, order books directly from the publisher (information you can find on Amazon!).

All that said, go ahead and slip up now and then. It’s hard not to, because Amazon owns many other companies, including the Washington Post, Whole Foods, Good Reads, and Zappos. Sometimes it’s just too easy to let your index finger make the purchase. Just try not to. Buy some books at your town’s bookstore, some tools at a small hardware store, some takeout at a local restaurant, and some clothes and crafts at retail outlets. Nurturing small business is one good thing you can do, right now, to help the economy, your neighborhoods, and cities.

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Loving Bunches

Anyone who knew Father Dan Begin knows why I bought this bottle of wine. I buy wine infrequently, and this bottle cost more money than I usually spend, but I couldn’t pass it up.

Father Dan’s habitual closing line to any missive was “Love you bunches.” I write in the book that pretty much anyone who received mail from him, probably including lawyers and repairmen, was loved bunches.

You didn’t have to do much at all to be loved bunches. That was the thing. We all thought we were his favorite, but his love was all inclusive. It’s a bitter pill. He loved all of us, even people I had no use for—even those people, Father Dan loved bunches.

It didn’t mean nobody annoyed him. It’s just that he figured out a way to love the annoying ones, too. He worked out ways to find them sympathetic or funny or interesting. And “worked” is the word. It wasn’t always easy to love everyone. It was his life’s work. Literally.

I’d like to be more like Father Dan, but to be honest I don’t know if I really want to be as loving. Being disgruntled and dissatisfied with everyone has its pleasures. That’s where I’d have to start. Working at wanting to love more. Making myself a person who genuinely wants to be more loving.

He used to preach about having a clean heart, and he had the cleanest heart of anyone I know. It took effort, that’s the thing. He buffed and scrubbed and shined his heart until he could say “Love you bunches” on every message and mean it.

”Lead Me, Guide Me: The Life and Example of Father Dan Begin” is now available at Shanti Arts and can be ordered from your local bookstore. (Also, soon, on Amazon, but support your local bookstore instead.)

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Don’t Let the Perfect Be the Enemy of the Good

Pillow CasesForty-something years ago, I bought a pair of pastel green pillowcases stamped with a pattern of leaves and flowers. It was the crafty 1970’s, when we were all doing macramé and making baskets out of bread dough and tie dying the heck out of everything. My high-school band friend Kathy was getting married, and I was giving her embroidered pillowcases as a wedding gift.

I worked on them, very sporadically, over a period of months. Three large leaves cross-stitched in shades of tawny green spanned the open edge of the pillow case. Yellow and gold daisies—formed by the fast-moving hoop stitch—were scattered around. The correct colors of various embroidery floss came provided, including instructions. I worked on the pillow cases, very sporadically, over a period of months. The wedding came and went, but I told myself it was okay to send a wedding gift late.

Reader, I got stalled. I put them aside. The pillow cases called to me occasionally, but I was able to resist the call.

Then Fate intervened. I learned after a year or two that Kathy and her husband were splitting up. Unsure who would ever want these embroidered pillow cases, I lost the will to stitch.

A plastic bag with all the fixings came with me as I moved from place to place. I went to grad school, and the bag came to my Kent apartment.  I got married, and it came to our first apartment. It came to our second apartment. It followed me to our new house, where we have lived for 35 years.

Don’t think I didn’t work on it at all! At long intervals, I’d pull it out and sew a few rows. I finished one pillowcase (or so I thought) and left it folded neatly in the bag while I worked on the other. Inevitably, I’d make some mistake. The threads would get gnarly and matted on the back, a big no-no for snooty perfectionist embroiderers, who would surely check out my stitching on the wrong side and judge me. Also, this project wasn’t destined to be framed. Whoever was lucky enough to acquire these lovely objets could discern, lying in their bed in the morning, my messy wad of green and yellow floss clumped at the back. I’d remove some errant stitches, proceed for awhile, and put it away again for a year or five.

I realized that along the way I had purchased some extra floss when the kit’s supply ran out.  In good light, it was obvious that the new floss’s olive green was a shade darker than the original. That realization set me back about a decade, because I couldn’t bring myself to tear out all that cross-stitch, and I couldn’t bear looking at the faulty match. I couldn’t live with the mistake or without it.

Which brings us at last to April, 2020, and the coronavirus lockdown. Time to Finish Projects. Time to bake bread and build a Lego castle and plant flowers. One of my friends is checking things off his bucket list, one of which was making a Boston cream pie. (I am speaking here for hardly-working empty-nesters and people without children at home to coerce into practicing times tables.)

I hunted down my pillowcases, a pursuit that took days in and of itself. I laid out the pillowcases side by side and decided that I could live with the mismatched shades of green. I noticed that the long-finished pillowcase was not, in fact, finished. It had a flower and a few inches of outline stitch left bare. As I clipped some floss to return to daisies and French knots, I realized the damn thing needed only an hour or two more work.

First, I finished the finished one. Then I set to work on the other for a couple of days.

Voila. Two completed pillowcases. Almost 50 years in the making.

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