Insights from Book Group

Some people question the purpose of book groups. I’ve had people (mostly men, to be honest) ask,

A pretty good choice

“What’s the point? Why not just read the book? Who really cares what anyone else thinks?”

Most everyone, however, can comprehend at least a few book group benefits. It’s social. It’s friendship. It’s, sometimes, good food and wine! Moreover, it’s a means to share a common interest. If you love books and reading, it’s fun–not for everyone, but for some of us–to explore that passion with others.

Discussing books (and movies and other arts) also challenges one’s own thinking. Hearing others’ reactions to a book can open your mind, maybe drive you crazy, perhaps raise questions about your own opinions. In any case, being forced to verbalize your thoughts can be a bracing challenge. It may cause you to clarify your values, as we used to say in the ’70’s. Your idiosyncratic tastes may heretofore have gone unrecognized, even (or especially) by yourself.

For example (you knew there was an example, didn’t you?), I’m realizing more clearly why I read and what I look for in a book. It’s not content. I usually don’t care what a book’s about, although,of course, I often read non-fiction because I’m interested in the subject matter. I read a lot about borderline personality disorder, for instance, when I was researching the topic, first, for my own exploration, and then for my book. Even with non-fiction, though, I’m often reading for reasons other than subject matter. I read and loved The Hare with Amber Eyes by Edmund de Waal, even though I knew nothing of netsuke–little Japanese sculptures–and not much about Japanese culture in general. I found him and his storytelling fascinating, and that’s all it took.

I like being surprised. (Notice I didn’t say shocked. Though that’s okay sometimes.) Canada, Richard Ford’s recent epic novel, surprised me. At every turn, I didn’t know what was going to happen, even though he gives away the ending in the first sentence. Beyond the plot, though, I’d never read anything like that book. It’s in two big, very different sections. It’s artfully narrated by an older man who tells the story from the point of view of a young boy. How does a writer convey both those sensibilities a the same time? It’s fully of irony and doubt and moral ambiguity. You can’t summarize it in twenty-five words or less.

I’ve learned from my book-group discussions, also, that I don’t care very much about liking the characters. Canada’s characters are not particularly likeable. Neither were Claire Messud’s in her troubling new novel The Woman Upstairs. I was struck by this passage from the Irish novelist Colm Toibin’s recent book of critical essays called New Ways to Kill Your Mother:

The novel is not a moral fable or a tale from the Bible, or an exploration of the individual’s role in society; it is not our job to like or dislike characters in fiction, or make judgements on their worth, or learn from them how to live. We can do that with real people and, if we like, figures from history. They are for moralists to feast on. A novel is a pattern and it is our job to relish and see clearly its textures and its tones, to notice how the textures were woven and the tones put into place. This is not to insist that a character in fiction is merely a verbal construct and bears no relation to the known world. It is rather to suggest that the role of a character in a novel must be judged not as we would judge a person. Instead, we must look for density, for weight and strength within the pattern, for ways in which figures in novels have more than one easy characteristic, one simple affect. A novel is a set of strategies, closer to something in mathematics or quantum physics than something in ethics or sociology. It is a release of certain energies and a dramatization of how these energies might be controlled, given shape.

Toibin, whose warm and accessible novel Brooklyn, by the way, bears little connection to quantum physics, may be overstating it a smidge. In general, though, he’s saying what I often think. Who, after all, likes Lady Macbeth or even Hamlet? Who likes Ahab or the Wicked Witch of the West or Humbert Humbert? We don’t have to like them to be grateful to their creators.

Thankfully, my book groups are not all about me and my tastes, but they help me clarify and understand my tastes, at the same time they allow me to consider other people’s preferences. After a book group discussion, I often understand myself, my friends, and the book at hand a lot better. There’s also all the laughing.

What about book groups? What’s the point? If you’re in one (or two), why? If not, why not?

 

 

 

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The Case for Buster

From “The Goat,” 1921

Some people don’t like black-and-white films. Others hate subtitles. I feel both kinds of people are missing out and should give such cinematic variations a better chance. I also know, though, there’s no accounting for taste and that everyone doesn’t have to like what I like.

Silent films fall into the same category. I fear some people got it into their heads, way back, that silents are primitive, inferior steps on the way toward our contemporary sophisticated art form. (You know, like Fast and Furious, Part 6.)  The same people may have a “progress” orientation to other arts, assuming that modern plays and books are better than older, primitive ones. This is nutty and misguided to me. Just as older, even ancient writers are as “good” as current ones (though not necessarily better), so too can old movies be as artful, interesting, profound, and/or funny as modern ones. Maybe those jerky, black-and-white TV versions of old silents ruined them for many viewers.

Some may feel, then, that Buster Keaton comedies are old-fashioned, herky-jerky slapstick. But, in my opinion, Buster Keaton was a genius. He was an awesome acrobat and stuntman–all those “tricks” are real. He’s really jumping between moving cars and dangling from rooftops and taking dangerous falls; he had the broken bones and long-standing injuries to prove it. He’s also smart and witty.

In a short film I saw last week, for example, someone drops a banana peel on the sidewalk, just as Buster is being pursued by the authorities. The first couple passersby do not slip on it, and you think, “Oh, clever. We have to wait for awhile for someone’s pratfall.” Then more and more people run by, but nobody slips on the banana peel. It’s a throwaway gag, but effective and funny, and sophisticated in its way.

Perhaps my favorite moment in last week’s program was at the beginning of the first short film, The High Sign. Buster swipes a newspaper from somebody’s pocket and sits down to read the want ads. He unfolds the newspaper, once and then twice, contending with the large piece of newsprint outdoors in the breeze–a familiar experience to most of us. Then, absurdly, he unfolds the paper again and again, ending up with a giant sheet of paper bigger than he is, tangling around him in the wind, while he flails at it to escape, ripping it to shreds in the process. It’s just a tiny, brilliant bit of business.

These are mere moments amid manic pursuits, myriad sight gags, and even touching scenes. There’s plenty more in this weekend’s offering of four Keaton shorts at the Cleveland Institute of Art Cinematheque, Thursday at 5:45 pm and Friday at 7:15 pm. The whole program lasts only 83 minutes.

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Buster and Fritz

Whenever I get a chance to recommend Buster Keaton, I recommend Buster Keaton. This weekend, I recommend Buster Keaton at the Cleveland Cinematheque.

Over the next four weekends, you can see Buster Keaton short films. Tomorrow evening (5:15 pm), three from 1920 and 1921 are playing: “The High Sign,” “One Week,” “Convict 13,”  and “The Scarecrow.” I’ve seen “One Week,” in which Buster builds, or tries to build, a pre-fab house, and it’s very funny. You can see him try to attach the chimney here.  I don’t think I’ve ever been disappointed in a Keaton film.

On Sunday at 10:00 am (yes, that’s right), head over to the Capitol Theatre for a very different experience: Fritz Lang’s chilling 1931 classic, M. It manages to be chilling and humane, all at the same time.

 

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Three for the Show

This weekend, abbreviated because of the holiday, offers only three movies, all of them good bets.

Setsuko Hara

You can see Ozu once again, as part of the Cinematheque series Marriage a la Ozu, in the 1957 family drama Tokyo Twilight. Less gentle and less benign than other offerings from this Japanese director, it’s also long at 141 minutes. It stars two Ozu favorites: Chishu Ryu and Setsuko Hara. Friday at 9:35 pm and Saturday at 5:00 pm.

The Girl (Friday 5:30 pm; Saturday 7:40 pm) touches on today’s headlines. It tells the story of a woman helping smuggle Mexicans across the border into the U.S. She gets more involved that she intended when she has to take responsibility for a six-year-old Mexican girl. Reviewed here.

Lore chronicles the escape of five (fictional) German children, whose Nazi parents are arrested at the end of World War II, through their devastated country. This film garnered great reviews when it came out last year. It plays Friday at 7:25 pm and Saturday at 9:35 pm.

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Belatedly

I’ve been remiss re the Cinematheque. Sometimes I’m not enthusiastic about any of the films, but I’m writing now, because I can be excited about a couple offerings.

It’s Yasujiro Ozu again, this time 1956’s Early Spring. (Late Spring, Mid-Winter, Fall Equinox–write your own Ozu-of-the -Similar-Title joke.) This one’s a tad steamier than most, using adultery as a theme and starring the estimable Chishu Ryu, like many Ozu films. I haven’t seen this one, but Ozu rarely disappoints. If you like sedate, black-and-white restraint. Saturday at 5:00 pm; Sunday at 8:40 pm.

The Kid with a Bike (Friday, 7:30 pm) also looks good. A Belgian film, made in 2011, it concerns a young boy, abandoned by his family, who’s adopted by a hairdresser. It’s gotten great reviews.

I did see Caesar Must Die a few months ago, an interesting Italian adaptation of Shakespeare’s Julius Caesar, adapted and performed by inmates of a high-security prison. The violent pasts and turbulent psyches of the performers reveal themes of the play, and the amateur prison performers are powerfully good. This is a film as much about prison reform as it is about Shakespeare. It shows Saturday at 7:45 pm and Sunday at 4:30 pm.

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Mother’s Day

This Mother’s Day made me feel sad. Our family’s last grandmother, my step-mother-in-law Grace, died last year. Also, the news all around us conveys so much grief for and about mothers—Sandy Hook, Boston, and now Cleveland’s horrendous news of abducted and abused daughters. Happily, these Proserpinas have returned to their families, but how much horror there is for them to process, and us, too, at one remove.

Reading Mother’s Day tributes leaves me feeling ambivalent at best, because most of what is said I couldn’t really say about my mom. Today Joanna Connors in the Cleveland Plain Dealer salutes those three girls’ mothers (and the perpetrator’s, to whom she’s generously compassionate), as well as her own mother. She extols a mother’s self-sacrifice (“This is the bond. This is the strength. This is the hope”), and all I can think is, Not my mom.

My mother couldn’t have supported and campaigned for me and my sisters like the dogged mothers Joanna writes about. She may have felt for us. She may have grieved when we were sad or suffering. But she couldn’t demonstrate these feelings, and she didn’t have the wherewithal to help us much.

I used to winnow through the drugstore’s selection of Mother’s Day cards to find one expressing some attenuated affection that didn’t downright lie. I can’t post a Mother’s Day encomium on Facebook. I can’t laud her steadfastness and love.

My mom did, however, help make me who I am, for better or worse. So I can quote here the Mary Oliver poem I use for the epigraph to my book Missing: Coming to Terms with a Borderline Mother.

 

                                    Someone I loved once gave me

                                        A box full of darkness.

                                   It took me years to understand

                                       That this, too, was a gift.

 

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Ozu Once Again

Ozu’s “A Hen in the Wind”

This weekend at the Cleveland Institute of Art Cinematheque I recommend 1948’s A Hen in the Wind (Sat. 5:15 pm; Sun. 6:30 pm) based on its director Yasujiro Ozu, who made such great Japanese classics as Late Spring and Tokyo Story. It sounds like a sad one–a woman prostituting herself to care for her child–but is probably subtle, sensitive, and wrenching.                          

Paul Thomas Anderson’s dad

I didn’t see The Master when it came out. Maybe you did, or at least you heard all the encomia for Joaquin Phoenix, Amy Adams, and Philip Seymour Hoffman, as well as for the direction by Paul Thomas Anderson, who also wrote the script. Anderson has special relevance to us Clevelanders, especially Cleveland baby-boomers, who remember his dad Ernie’s Ghoulardi character and show. In the mid-sixties, Ghoulardi wore goofy makeup and performed outrageous schtick between segments of horror movies on local TV. He’s a legend.

Anyway, The Master received ho-hum reviews when my husband saw it. He’s showing it to give it a second chance. I’d love to know what you thought, if you saw it, and whether you want to see it again. If so, the Cinematheque gives you another chance Saturday at 7:00 pm and Sunday at 3:30 pm. Critics and viewers who were not my husband gave this film rave reviews.

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No Buzz

How do you choose which books to read and which movies to see?

All of us are probably somewhat susceptible to “buzz”–the blaring ads and TV talk-show promos and mentions on National Public Radio that make us think we have to see or read a particular work. My book group just read Wild, for example, the best-selling memoir by Cheryl Strayed, partly because of its buzz. Oprah liked it! It was okay, most of us thought, but maybe not deserving of hoopla. This sort of noise often drowns out the quiet music of smaller works, lacking big budgets and gargantuan publicity departments.

Paul Brannigan

I’m thinking specifically of The Angels’ Share, a new film by British director Ken Loach. We saw it last night at the Cedar-Lee Theater in Cleveland Heights, where it’s doing little business. Loach, born in 1936, is a venerable, celebrated director, but he usually makes small-ish movies, often with non-professional actors, like Paul Brannigan, the lead in this one, who does a remarkable job.

The Angels’ Share is a suspenseful heist movie and a broad, bawdy comedy. It’s full of coarse language (or “course” language, as the theater warned us) and has a leftish political slant, as does its director. It’s very entertaining. Unfortunately, though it will do okay worldwide, it won’t play here long. No buzz.

We saw it because my husband subscribes to the auteur theory of filmmaking, meaning, in plain English, that the director creates the film, so when a great director makes a movie, it’s worth seeing. Last week, we saw To the Wonder for similar reasons. We both love director Terrence Malick’s Days of Heaven, as well as his other films, and so we saw his new film with no hesitation. It’s arty and challenging, but also gorgeous and moving.

Similarly, I’d read any book by Annie Dillard, Phillip Lopate, Ann Patchett, or David Sedaris. If they unearthed an unpublished book by the late James Herndon, whose lovely How to Survive in Your Native Land I’m rereading for the nth time, I’d pick it up in a second. I want to read those writers, no matter the subject. Even though I might not like their new offerings, I’m interested in keeping up with them.

What about brand-new or unfamiliar directors and authors? you may ask. Well, then you have to rely on word-of-mouth and reviews. Enough people have told me, for example, that I would like Stephen Greenblatt’s The Swerve: How the World Became Modern, that I believe them and intend to get to it this summer. I just read my first Don DeLillo novel, White Noise, based on its stellar reputation, which I didn’t like at first but ended up admiring very much.

So, tell me. Do you read any and all mysteries, science fiction, or graphic novels? Are you attracted by book covers or blurbs on the back? Do you see any movie starring Vin Diesel, Meryl Streep, or Johnny Depp? How do you choose?

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Ordination, Irish Women, and the Pope

Pope Francis washing the feet of a woman

The Roman Catholic Church officially offers seven sacraments, but, as a friend of mine always says, men have seven sacraments, whereas women have only six, because ordination to the priesthood is not an option for Catholic women.

Lots of people who know I’m Catholic have asked me what I think of the new Pope. So far, he’s both likable and kind. I admire his humility, and I was moved that he washed women’s feet on Holy Thursday. It seems like a no-brainer, but the guys who love rules came out of the woodwork to complain.

To dispute the Pope’s actions, they used the same argument that keeps women out of the priesthood. At the Last Supper, they say, Jesus washed the feet of male disciples. Re-enacting that event on Holy Thursday, the priest should wash the feet of males only. Similarly, Jesus supposedly chose men as disciples, the progenitors of modern priests. Ergo (Latin’s the appropriate language here, no?), modern priests should also be male.

I’ve never heard anyone address the implications of this argument. Those male disciples were Jewish. They were fishermen. They were between the ages, probably, of 20 and 40. They spoke Aramaic. Why is gender the only trait we focus on when restricting access to one of the sacraments, and, of course, to power and influence in the Catholic Church? We should scour the world for youngish, Jewish, Aramaic-speaking fishermen to be priests, because, after all, that’s who Jesus chose.

In fact, though, the entire argument is specious, as many scholars have pointed out. Cleveland’s own FutureChurch has helped educate people about the real history of  Christianity. Jesus had women disciples, mentioned frequently in Scripture. Jesus appeared first to women after the Resurrection. The early Church had women deacons and was supported by wealthy women. Women have always played a critical role in the Church, but have been unable to follow a vocation to the priesthood.

Fortunately, other Christian churches have become less restrictive. Protestant churches largely allow women to become full-fledged ministers. The Anglican/Episcopalian denomination ordains women as priests. My friend Meagen Farrell is undertaking a book project about the pioneering women who made this happen in Ireland. (You can learn more and sign up to support her here.) On Monday, April 8, at noon, you can see Meagen’s presentation on her projected book, including activities for kids, at the St. Malachi Center (2416 Superior Viaduct, Cleveland). If the Anglicans can do it in Ireland, maybe someday the Catholics will do it here, and in the Vatican.

Probably, however, not in the foreseeable future. Regarding how I feel about Pope Francis, he’s down-to-earth and devout and devoted to people who are poor—all very important virtues. But he’s unlikely to make other changes I would like to see: acceptance of homosexuality, married priests, a more rational attitude toward birth control, less hierarchical governance, and women’s ordination. With no prospect of change on these issues, I find it harder and harder, as time goes by, to call myself Catholic.

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Gun Control on Easter

Nothing says “holiday” like a family discussion about gun control. After the dishes were cleared  and relatives had made their cases, I came home to the Cleveland Plain Dealer and a sobering op-ed by Leonard Pitts, Jr.

Pitts writes that since the December killings in Newtown, Connecticut, nearly 5000 kids in America have been shot by guns. Not 5000 people in the world. Not 5000 Americans. 5000 American kids.

Newtown was an aberration, some say. Nothing will stop a madman like Adam Lanza. Bad cases make bad law. And so on. The thing is, Newtown captures the headlines, in all its horror and bloodshed.  But those victims make up only a tiny fraction of a percent of the total deaths from guns.

A quick internet search shows that at least 2244 Americans have been killed by guns since the Sandy Hook massacre. The Huffington Post shows a chilling map, with deaths marked in red across the country.

Do people die from guns in other countries? Of course. But in the US, children are 13 times more likely to die from guns than in any other industrialized country. As I wrote in December, restricting the most dangerous weaponry works. In Australia, for example, when gun legislation was passed, murders from guns decreased by 40%.

In addition, regulating guns results in fewer suicides. Conventional wisdom says that if someone is intent on suicide, he or she will get it done whether a gun is at hand or not. But the facts say otherwise. In fact, if depressed people can’t get their hands on guns, they don’t kill themselves that day. When they don’t succeed that day, they most often never get around to it. Their lives improve a little, someone reaches out, they get some help, and they stay alive. Australia saw a 50% decline in gun-related suicides. Read Nicholas Kristof’s intelligent analysis here.

No one is saying that we’re going to take away everyone’s guns. We couldn’t do that if we tried. We’re asking for sensible gun control: thorough, required background checks and restrictions on high-capacity magazines.

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