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A Box Full of Darkness.

The website Psych Central allowed me to contribute another blog post, which they titled “A Box Full of Darkness: Growing Up in the Shadow of Borderline Personality Disorder.” Here it is.

BPDFamily

BPDFamily invited me to write a post about how my thinking about my mom has changed since learning about borderline personality. The website is a gathering place for people with family members with BPD. Here’s the post:   http://www.bpdfamily.com/content/maybe-she-did-best-she-could-do

Green Shoes

Celebrities such a football players are too often in the news for bad reasons, but both my kids have, at various times, alerted me to Brandon Marshall, a Chicago Bears receiver, who’s outed himself as suffering from borderline personality disorder. They know about my interest because they know about my book, Missing: Coming to Terms with a Borderline Mother, in […]

Hurt Like I Do

I get on a Randy Newman kick now and then. Today, playing a Newman cd while I was baking, I was struck by the song “Marie.” Lushly orchestrated, this version features a warm, romantic background, like so many Newman songs, belying the barbed lyrics. “Marie” sounds like a love song, but it’s a love song sung […]

Dr. Phil, Jinda, and Me

I diagnosed a woman with borderline personality on Dr. Phil last week. First, let’s dispense with a mea culpa regarding Dr. Phil. During his first couple of seasons, I watched religiously, and, embarrassing as this admission is, I felt I was getting something important from watching him. After some time, though, I realized I needed to […]

BPD Causes, or, My First Use of the Word “Hypochondriasis”

A friend recently sent me an article called “Emotional Hypochondriasis, Hyperbole, and the Borderline Patient” about the etiology (causes) and symptoms of borderline personality disorder, especially relating to hypochondria. Despite their sometimes befuddling jargon, the authors clearly expressed empathy for patients, their families and doctors, and said some wise things about the syndrome. I differ, […]

Richard Russo’s Difficult Mom

How could Richard Russo’s memoir Elsewhere not intrigue me? I’m already a fan. His novels Nobody’s Fool and Empire Falls, for example, tell heartfelt and funny stories about flawed, even infuriating, but ultimately sympathetic characters. Russo has mastered an assured, sincere tone that doesn’t get sentimental. A glance at reviews of the new book told […]

You Always Hurt the One You Love

I’ve struck up an email correspondence with a reader named Mary, whose elderly mother has borderline personality disorder, and a psychiatrist named David Allen. In recent correspondence, Dr. Allen suggests that people with BPD show their love for family members in a distorted way. Their criticism and evident disdain are really demonstrations of love, albeit […]

Difficult Moms

Whenever I talk about the subject of my book, at parties or with other groups, a few women around me begin to nod and then chime in with stories of their own mothers. I hate to malign moms, being one myself, but it seems that a number of us had challenging relationships with mothers who […]

Crazy Mommies

Merrill Markoe is an Emmy-winning TV writer, novelist, and humorist. I allude to one of her old essays all the time, in which she mused that all of pop culture is now oriented toward thirteen-year-old boys, or their mental equivalent. As in car chases, explosions, robots beating each other over the head, farting jokes, and so forth. Anyway, […]